Finding Wholeness after Faith-based Fracture
SATURDAY, OCTOBER 5, 2019 | THE WELL COFFEEHOUSE, BRENTWOOD, TENN.
The Talks
The Unintended Effects of Purity Culture – Hannah Feliciano, MMFT
During the 1990’s and 2000’s the Purity Movement took hold in many Christian churches around the country, establishing an expectation for young people to not engage in pre-marital sex. Many of the messages of the movement were shaming and hurtful, and today many young adults carry the effects. The question we are asking now is, “How do we learn from this and do better?”
Hannah Feliciano practices marriage & family therapy at Insight Counseling Centers’ office in Brentwood, TN.
The Burden of Shame – Carol Smith, M.Div., LMFT
Many parents know the experience of being embarrassed by their children in public, and (heaven forbid), in church! Shame is a heavy burden. Chronic experiences of shame can challenge our structures of faith — individually, in families, and in faith communities.
Carol Smith is a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist and serves as Insight Counseling Centers’ director of clinical services and training.
Restored to Me – Monét Shell, MMFT
We are our most peaceful selves when we are confident in who we are. Our spirituality allows us to find identity in God, but what happens when the hurt that we’ve experienced in a faith community causes us to lose so many parts of ourselves that our identity is lost? Let’s talk about what it looks like to be restored.
Monét Shell practices marriage & family therapy at Insight Counseling Centers’ office in the Donelson neighborhood of Nashville, TN.
All videos recorded during Restoration Experience on October 5, 2019 at The Well Coffeehouse in Brentwood, Tennessee. Restoration Experience is a 90-minute conference presented by Insight Counseling Centers. Video recorded by Joshua Mendez. Sound by Trevor Kimball.
Resources
SONG TO MY SEXUALITY
Written, sung, ukulele’d by Erin Rose Tillson | Harmonies by Hannah Feliciano | Recorded and mixed by Joshua Mendez
My momma taught me to keep you safe
A little demon had to lock away
I was ashamed of you
Afraid of losing you
I think it’s time we set the score straight
IT’S NOT YOU VERSUS ME NOW
WE’RE ON THE SAME TEAM
WE’RE ON THE SAME TEAM
LET’S PLAY NICE TOGETHER NOW
I’M CHEERING FOR US NOW
WE’RE ON THE SAME TEAM
WE’RE ON THE SAME TEAM
LET’S PLAY NICE TOGETHER NOW
Now I’m unlearning what mom taught
Finally listening to what you want
I never dreamed that you
Could have dreams, too
Now this is pretty good what we’ve got
To my surprise I’m finding
Freeing you has not destroyed me
To my delight I’m finding
Freeing you is freeing me
Freeing you is freeing me
BOOKS
Shameless: A Sexual Reformation by Nadia Bolz-Weber
Daring Greatly: How the Courage to Be Vulnerable Transforms the Way We Live, Love, Parent and Lead by Brené Brown
I Thought It Was Just Me (but it isn’t) by Brené Brown
The Gifts of Imperfection by Brené Brown
Religion that Heals, Religion that Harms: A Guide for Clinical Practice by James L. Griffith
Pure: Inside the Evangelical Movement That Shamed a Generation of Young Women and How I Broke Free by Linda Kay Klein
The Attachment Effect by Peter Lovenheim
Healing Your Church Hurt: What to do when you still love God but have been wounded by His people by Stephen Mansfield
Good Christian Sex: Why Chastity Isn’t the Only Option-And Other Things the Bible Says About Sex by Bromleigh McCleneghan
Healing Spiritual Wounds by Carol Howard Merritt
Creating a Healthier Church by Ronald W. Richardson
Beyond Birds and Bees: Bringing Home a New Message to Our Kids About Sex, Love, and Equality by Bonnie J. Rough
The Emotionally Healthy Woman by Geri & Peter Scazzero
Emotionally Healthy Spirituality by Peter Scazzero
Sex, God and the Conservative Church: Erasing Shame from Sexual Intimacy by Dr. Tina Schermer Sellers
Healthy Congregations: A Systems Approach, 2nd ed. by Peter L. Steinke
Learning to Walk in the Dark by Barbara Brown Taylor
Where Is God When It Hurts? Revised Ed. by Philip Yancey
WEB
Articles and podcasts from Brené Brown at brenebrown.com
Reckless Pursuit Podcast: Purity Culture, Part 1
Reckless Pursuit Podcast: Purity Culture, Part 2
Unwanted: How Sexual Brokenness Reveals Our Way to Healing by Jay Stringer
Podcast Conversation with author: Part 1, Part 2, Part 3
Touch Podcast: Conversations of Spirit and Body
Episode 3: The Sex Positive Church with Amy Mears and Friends
Give Me Sex Jesus (Documentary Film) by Matthew Barber
Joshua Harris Open Apology Letter
NY Times Opinion Article: “How Should Christians Have Sex”