Restoration Experience - Insight Counseling Centers

Finding Wholeness after Faith-based Fracture

SATURDAY, OCTOBER 5, 2019 | THE WELL COFFEEHOUSE, BRENTWOOD, TENN.

The Talks

The Unintended Effects of Purity Culture – Hannah Feliciano, MMFT

During the 1990’s and 2000’s the Purity Movement took hold in many Christian churches around the country, establishing an expectation for young people to not engage in pre-marital sex. Many of the messages of the movement were shaming and hurtful, and today many young adults carry the effects. The question we are asking now is, “How do we learn from this and do better?”

Hannah Feliciano practices marriage & family therapy at Insight Counseling Centers’ office in Brentwood, TN.

The Burden of Shame – Carol Smith, M.Div., LMFT

Many parents know the experience of being embarrassed by their children in public, and (heaven forbid), in church! Shame is a heavy burden. Chronic experiences of shame can challenge our structures of faith — individually, in families, and in faith communities.

Carol Smith is a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist and serves as Insight Counseling Centers’ director of clinical services and training.

Restored to Me – Monét Shell, MMFT

We are our most peaceful selves when we are confident in who we are. Our spirituality allows us to find identity in God, but what happens when the hurt that we’ve experienced in a faith community causes us to lose so many parts of ourselves that our identity is lost? Let’s talk about what it looks like to be restored.

Monét Shell practices marriage & family therapy at Insight Counseling Centers’ office in the Donelson neighborhood of Nashville, TN.

All videos recorded during Restoration Experience on October 5, 2019 at The Well Coffeehouse in Brentwood, Tennessee. Restoration Experience is a 90-minute conference presented by Insight Counseling Centers. Video recorded by Joshua Mendez. Sound by Trevor Kimball.

Resources

SONG TO MY SEXUALITY
Written, sung, ukulele’d by Erin Rose Tillson | Harmonies by Hannah Feliciano | Recorded and mixed by Joshua Mendez

My momma taught me to keep you safe
A little demon had to lock away
I was ashamed of you
Afraid of losing you
I think it’s time we set the score straight

IT’S NOT YOU VERSUS ME NOW
WE’RE ON THE SAME TEAM
WE’RE ON THE SAME TEAM
LET’S PLAY NICE TOGETHER NOW

I’M CHEERING FOR US NOW
WE’RE ON THE SAME TEAM
WE’RE ON THE SAME TEAM
LET’S PLAY NICE TOGETHER NOW

Now I’m unlearning what mom taught
Finally listening to what you want
I never dreamed that you
Could have dreams, too
Now this is pretty good what we’ve got

To my surprise I’m finding
Freeing you has not destroyed me
To my delight I’m finding
Freeing you is freeing me
Freeing you is freeing me

BOOKS

Shameless: A Sexual Reformation by Nadia Bolz-Weber

Daring Greatly: How the Courage to Be Vulnerable Transforms the Way We Live, Love, Parent and Lead by Brené Brown

I Thought It Was Just Me (but it isn’t) by Brené Brown

The Gifts of Imperfection by Brené Brown

Religion that Heals, Religion that Harms: A Guide for Clinical Practice by James L. Griffith

Pure: Inside the Evangelical Movement That Shamed a Generation of Young Women and How I Broke Free by Linda Kay Klein

The Attachment Effect by Peter Lovenheim

Healing Your Church Hurt: What to do when you still love God but have been wounded by His people by Stephen Mansfield

Good Christian Sex: Why Chastity Isn’t the Only Option-And Other Things the Bible Says About Sex by Bromleigh McCleneghan

Healing Spiritual Wounds by Carol Howard Merritt